tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268990178558552681.post8700638063097035036..comments2011-10-16T03:03:37.435-07:00Comments on A Crippled Carnival: "My Own Disablism" Or "The Self-Hating Crip"Crippled Carnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12247483302784794694noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268990178558552681.post-58674768710635095012010-05-06T13:46:27.810-07:002010-05-06T13:46:27.810-07:00Thank you guys, for the kind words of support. I h...Thank you guys, for the kind words of support. I honestly expected to get savaged for this and was terrified of posting it. <br /><br />This is something I'd been struggling with for a while, since we first started talking about the surgery even. My wife flat out told me that if I didn't get it, didn't do something about the pain I was in, because of what I *thought* other disabled people *might* think about it, it was one of the stupidest things she had ever heard of.<br /><br />In the end, even though I'm still in pain, I'm in less than I was so it's good that I got it. But I still feel awkward about the whole thing.Crippled Carnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12247483302784794694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268990178558552681.post-85524885999278246132010-05-04T12:56:47.210-07:002010-05-04T12:56:47.210-07:00You are who you are and how you are is no one else...You are who you are and how you are is no one else's business. I, too, used to be in and and out. Then, there was a long period of in. Then, there was a hip surgery and now ... now .... there is a glint of in and out again. The internal disability police are as if not more destructive than the nons.<br /><br />Good luck -- <br /><br />WCDWheelchair Dancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981313345401954118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268990178558552681.post-77766780890462091452010-05-03T15:35:23.858-07:002010-05-03T15:35:23.858-07:00Totally relate. I'm experiencing something of ...Totally relate. I'm experiencing something of a remission from my disability and I too am out of my wheelchair. I feel between two worlds, not well enough for the well, not sick enough for the sick. And I too am determined to keep on campaigning. What such changes can give us is an ability to reflect. You can communicate the experience of being disabled even when you don't consider yourself to be as disabled. That's okay. Don't judge yourself so harshly.seahorsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006649663400552591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268990178558552681.post-71836254131625145402010-05-02T11:53:00.540-07:002010-05-02T11:53:00.540-07:00First, pain is a bitch.
Second, self-image is a t...First, pain is a bitch.<br /><br />Second, self-image is a tricky thing, and so tightly wound up with what we see in the mirror, that feeling uncomfortable around a sudden and unexpected bodily change is to be expected. <br /><br />Third -- yes. Your advocacy is more than welcome. For one thing, it's based on personal experience. For another: once a fighter for the cause, always a fighter for the cause.CapriUnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906524679880178584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268990178558552681.post-11067677022242942352010-05-01T20:51:52.832-07:002010-05-01T20:51:52.832-07:00Your disabilities still "count". And you...Your disabilities still "count". And you know, even if you were all-around-all-cured-up or something, your alliance in disability activism would still be so super welcome. I'm not anywhere near in your position, so I can't say I understand how you're feeling. But I do know that sometimes if I first met another disabled person on a day when I needed a mobility device and then see them again on a day when I don't, I do feel kinda strange about it. I know I shouldn't, but I do...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com